I like making lists but I'm not a pathological list maker. I was listening to someone who'd made a long list of pros (read good things) and cons (and bad things) about an actual person. I was baffled at first. Why would you do that?
That made me wonder, when do we start making these I love.. and I hate.. lists about the characteristics of a person? I think it is something we do when we're deciding to get into a relationship. (Remember that episode of Friends when Ross makes a list about Rachel and Julie? ) Or looking for reasons to get out of one.
But I think heart of hearts, we already know the answer. We just need those lists to justify the decision.